Monday, July 28, 2014
“I don’t have enough time.” I have heard this often in coaching leaders. In reality, everyone has the same amount of time. How we chose to use it is up to each one of us but those choices are not always easy. I have come to realize that when I consider the tasks before me, I have three choices.
First, there are those things I need to do. These are the things that are of primary importance. One of these is my relationship with God. Another is my relationship with family. Everything else is negotiable. Those things that I need to do are usually those things that I am gifted to do. This does not mean that they are easy to accomplish. They may take work, but I have the skills to do them or I can acquire those skills. These are usually the activities that bring me the most sense of fulfillment.
For example, I have just finished the manuscript for my first e-book. Since it is based on my experience, ideas, and interpretations, I was the person to do it. Did it take time, energy, and effort? You bet. It also brought a sense of satisfaction and completion.
Second, there are those things others can do. Some of these are things that are others’ responsibility and I need to leave them alone to do them. Other tasks are things that I am not really equipped to do and will probably not be able to acquire the skills to do, so I ask for the help of competent people. And then there are those things that I can delegate to others, perhaps encouraging and equipping them as they do the tasks.
With the manuscript, I found a number of people who could help and were uniquely equipped to do so. I found a copy editor to read my manuscript for errors and syntax problems. Several friends in ministry reviewed the manuscript and gave me feedback and suggestions for improvement. Finally, a very competent associate set the book up for publication.
Finally, there are those things that nobody needs to do. These are projects that might have looked important at one time, but they are really not necessary and no one is going to miss them if they are not done. In the past, I often felt some guilt about starting something and leaving it incomplete. I realize now that sometimes the sense of urgency to do a task is fleeting and the desire or need is no longer there. I have also come to understand that if someone does not come alongside to help get the task done, maybe it lacks real traction or significance.
I had another publication idea, but my passion for it has ebbed and those who might have been part of the writing have not shown interest, so perhaps it is not something that I need to do. Of course, someone else may come along and pick it up and run with it and I would certainly bless that effort.
Choices about those things that I should do, the things that others should do, and the things that no one should do are not easy. Guilt, frustration, and a sense of failure often conspire to make those choices difficult, but making those choices makes life much easier.
Sunday, July 27, 2014
In Good to Great, Jim Collins and his team sought out companies that moved from being good at what they were doing to becoming truly great. They pointed out that “Good is the enemy of the great.” In other words, people will praise your organization for providing quality but not exceptional products (or programs or services). People have been abused so long by organizations that they are satisfied with good but not exceptional service. They don’t expect anything to be “great.” Why take the risk to move to the next level when you already have acceptable results?
I have thought recently about how many good churches there are. These congregations provide solid preaching, well-planned worship, comprehensive Christian education, competent pastoral care, and helpful ministries, but they are not exceptional. They are shackled by their own expectations of what church ought to be and limited in their Kingdom vision. What keeps them from being great?
Good churches are satisfied with the acceptable rather than the exceptional. They do what is necessary to “cover all the bases” so that the community will think well of them but they rarely are willing to go to the next level and provide something that is truly exceptional.
Good churches tend to major on minor issues. They are very concerned that things be done correctly whether those things are important or not. They major on minors.
Good churches value security over service. They have a low level of risk tolerance, so they are unwilling to try anything that may result in criticism from within the congregation or from the outside community.
Good churches are more concerned about maintenance than mission. They would rather take care of what they already have than reach out to embrace the unfamiliar, fearing embarrassment or uncertainty and possible inconvenience.
Good churches would rather invest in programs than in people. They have the mindset that the right program will answer all their problems, so they sell their members on programs rather than asking members what they need in order to fulfill God’s calling in their lives.
Good churches prefer to stay with the familiar rather than embrace innovation. When one is innovative, there is always the possibility of failure and good churches cannot tolerate failure.
Good churches are too easily distracted. Every immediate difficulty becomes a major problem, so they take their eyes off what is best and simply settle for maintaining what is good. They are unwilling to “stay the course.”
My friend Bo Prosser has noted, “Very few churches will thrive in the 21st century because we are too nice to sweat, too proud to cry, too stubborn to change, too sophisticated to laugh, and too busy to celebrate.” Just being good will not further the work of the Kingdom of God. Unless we loosen up and respond to the leadership of the Spirit of God, we will always be good churches but never great ones.
This post originally appeared Feburary 28, 2013
Friday, July 25, 2014
Unfortunately, this mixed metaphor describes what we often do in church. Naturally creative people come up with new ideas then those ideas are stifled in the implementation phase. Why? There are many causes—a desire to control, fear of the untried, failure to understand, satisfaction with the status quo, or lack of vision.
Exactly what is the role of leaders and leadership groups (committees, deacons, elders, etc.) in a congregation? Are these people gatekeepers or permission givers? Do they seek to empower or control? Do they build up the body of Christ or hold it captive?
Certainly, there is a need to vet new ideas to make sure that they are moral, financially feasible, and comply with basic legal concerns. Real leaders, however, find ways to bring creative ideas into compliance so that they can move ahead rather than be stopped in their tracks.
One reason that young adults are disenchanted with the church is that they no longer see the church as open to innovation. In too many cases, the desire of entrenched leadership to preserve and protect has overcome the desire to create and bring new life. We find many young adults who start their own ministries because they are not willing to jump through congregational or denominational hoops that ten to squeeze the life out of ministry.
John 3:8 says, “The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.” (NIV) Not every new idea is born of the Spirit, but perhaps we should be more prayerful in our consideration and spiritually discerning before we squelch something new.
Thursday, July 24, 2014
Teaching Sunday school is always a learning experience for me. Whether I am the designated teacher or one of the participants, I find it beneficial to hear another’s understanding of the text. Each of us brings our own life experience and needs to the text. I am becoming more committed to the idea that the study of Scripture is incomplete unless it takes place in community.
Sunday school classes are called various things now, but whatever they are called, they are small groups of people who learn and grow together. Small groups have been important to the life of the church for years, finding expression in various forms--the “holy clubs” of John Wesley, the modern Sunday school movement, home Bible studies, and recovery support groups among other examples. Even in the age of the megachurch, small groups are an important strategy for growth and discipleship.
Scott Thumma and Warren Bird’s study for Leadership Network of 25,000 megachurch attenders showed that “large churches are very intentional about helping people find their identity in some kind of group or team.” Some sixty percent of those surveyed indicated that they are involved in one or more groups and this is a growing percentage. Over almost a decade, the number of mega churches saying that small groups were central to their approach to Christian nurture and spiritual formation grew from fifty percent to eighty-six percent.
Although small groups vary in their leadership style, purpose, content, commitment and process, they are places where individuals can practice self-discovery while learning from the experiences of others. Small groups may have been part of the church for generations, but they still continue to be on the “growing edge” for Christian formation and discipleship.
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
I want to take this space to share a great opportunity for those who are interested in learning coaching skills:
Once accessible only to key executive and business leaders, the demand for coaching is growing among individuals in all areas of life. Whether it is called life coaching, leadership coaching, or discipleship coaching, churches and church leaders are seeking to develop skills in this people development process. With a new coaching concentration, Central Baptist Theological Seminary is seeking to meet that need.
In the fall of 2014, Central will begin offering three elective courses online that will assist seminary students in acquiring skills as coaches. “Introduction to Mentoring, Coaching, and Learning Communities” (MP513e) is a fall semester course for those who wish to add mentoring and coaching to their skill sets as they work with individuals in churches, not for profits, and missional faith communities.
For students who are interested in preparation to apply for a coaching credential from the International Coach Federation, two courses will be offered to fulfill the class requirements for the basic coaching credential. ICF is a major third-party global provider for coach certification.
“The Ministry of Coaching” (MP509e), an online class for spring 2015, is designed around the International Coach Federation Competencies and Code of Ethics. The class introduces students to several coaching models and involves them in practicing these models. The second course, “Coaching Practicum” (MP514e) will be offered online during the summer term 2015 to help students develop advanced coaching skills, cross cultural coaching, and intergenerational coaching issues.
Instructors for the courses are Ircel Harrison and Rhonda Abbot Blevins, supplemental faculty members in ministry praxis. Harrison has taught classes for the seminary since 2007. He is an ICF certified coach and co-author of Disciple Development Coaching as well as the Coaching Coordinator for Pinnacle Leadership Associates. Blevins is Associate Pastor for Congregational Leadership at Tellico Village Community Church in Loudon, Tennessee, and a recent Doctor of Ministry graduate of the McAfee School of Theology at Mercer University. She has also served as a campus minister and denominational leader. Blevins has been a coach with Pinnacle Leadership Associates since 2013 and is pursuing certification by ICF as a life coach.
Central has been an innovator in the area of coaching. The seminary began offering individual coaching to the first Doctor of Ministry cohort two years ago. The 2013-2017 create Master of Divinity students have been assigned mentor coaches. A course on “The Ministry of Coaching” has been offered as a seminary elective since 2011. This is a further step to empower leaders for effective ministry.
Please contact Ircel Harrison at firstname.lastname@example.org for further information or to ask questions about the classes.
Monday, July 21, 2014
On July 20, we marked the 45th anniversary of the first human landing on the Moon. Like most people, I was pinned to the television to watch the grainy pictures of the first steps by Apollo 11 astronauts on an alien world. Once Apollo was over, human exploration of the Moon ended. In fact, we retreated to near Earth orbit and left exploration farther out to automated probes and instrumented landers. I must admit that I am disappointed when I realize that my grandchildren have never seen a real live person walk on the Moon. Apollo is ancient history for them.
In addition, the United States no longer has an active crewed spacecraft capable of achieving orbit. With the end of the Space Shuttle program, Americans are dependent on Russians to take American astronauts into space. NASA talks about human missions to Mars, but I would not hold my breath about the possibilities. The United States Air Force seems more interested in drones and surveillance satellites than putting people into space.
The future of space exploration and exploitation is primarily in the hands of commercial entrepreneurs like SpaceX, Orbital Sciences, and Virgin Galactic. Perhaps this is the way that it should be. Those who take the risks will receive the rewards. These are the entities that will reap the benefits from asteroid mining, power generation, and space factories. Exploitation will trump exploration with the latter done only by instruments.
The downside is that governments will eventually find themselves completely dependent on independent contractors for space services. With military downsizing, this is the approach now used in Afghanistan and other places where the U.S. military has a presence overseas. Much of the support, technical, and even security responsibilities are outsourced. This may seem the most economical approach right now, but will it always be so?
Whenever the first human craft lands on Mars, expect it to carry as many logos as a NASCAR contender. And that’s the way it is . . .
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
I was reminded of this when I heard a podcast by Keith Webb recently. Keith is a coach and coach educator with Creative Results Management. In the recording, he pointed out that the coach’s role is not to help people get things done but to look at things in a new way. This requires powerful questions.
Often, the tendency in coaching is to move quickly toward the solution—identify an objective, set goals, and design the action steps to get there. This may work, but the danger in this approach is failing to identify the client’s real objective. We have “missed the mark.”
The gift that the coach gives to the person being coaching is an environment in which to think about his or her challenges in a new way. The coach actually creates a safe, non-judgmental, and creative space for the client to gain a new perspective. Why is this a gift? Because we rarely take the time to do this on our own.
Thanks, Keith, for reminding me that presence, asking good questions, and listening are worth the time invested in them and provide the person being coached with the freedom to identify what is most important for their personal growth and development.